The usual energy of the Christmas with my kindergarten gnomies face mask and I will buy this Hamptons seemed it would be—like so many things this summer—on pause. And on the surface, it is. Sunset Beach on Shelter Island is closed for the season. The Surf Lodge’s concert series, which last year brought in names like John Legend and Rüfüs du Sol, is canceled. (“I don’t even think there’s a way to safely open, even at 25% occupancy,” owner Jayma Cordoso said of her waterfront venue. “What am I going to do if people see someone they know and ignore social-distance rules? Chase them with a stick? Hotels are operating with limited occupancy. Prices for rental homes have skyrocketed as many New Yorkers continue to seek refuge from the city. I was considered the weird girl who likes weird things and for some reason enjoys school. Some of the kids went as far as to make fun of me, and this ripped me apart. Even when I’d try to find out what other kids would be impressed by and tried to assimilate, it wasn’t nearly enough. All I wanted in life at the time was friends, and not having that broke my spirit. I didn’t do well in school (almost failed 5th and 6th grade) and my outlook in life looked lonely and bleak. In fact, I never got real, actual friends who stuck with me until the 10th grade. I spent five years lonely, not sure if I would ever get a real friend. So I feel your pain buddy. Because I was there too. Sometimes I’m still there. But let me tell you, there will be a point in your life where you’ll meet people who like you for you, and will want to be your friend just as much as you want to be theirs. It happened to me, and I couldn’t have been happier. People who liked me for me. People who would ask me to hang out, because they really wanted me around. Some of my closest friends even told me about being in a similar situation as me, being alone with no friends. It happens to more people than you may think, you’re not alone. Whenever I hear about someone feeling as if nobody likes them, I understand completely, because I was in that position. Just remember that like me, you will also at some point find people who connect with you. Take care and stay strong.
Christmas with my kindergarten gnomies face mask, hoodie, tank top, sweater and long sleeve t-shirt
There are no splashy brand parties, no horse shows, no charity events with socialites throwing themselves at BFA photographers. The East End, once the Christmas with my kindergarten gnomies face mask and I will buy this ultimate place for Klipspringers to glom on to Gatsbys and post geotagged Instagrams by their guesthouses, seemed to be more like the closed-door Maidstone Club: for members only. But then Page Six broke the story: Donald Trump Jr. and his girlfriend, Kimberly Guilfoyle, attended a mask-less party in Bridgehampton, New York, and a few days later, Guilfoyle tested positive for COVID-19. Was the Hamptons, even during a pandemic, still a place to see and be seen? Still a place with a scene? In late June, he attended a gathering that ballooned to over 100 people. First, lets clear some things up. People don’t like people based on no reason. My guess is you are either overly obnoxious, overly negative or just mean. But here’s the deal. If you want to change how people feel about you you need to know what it is. Not what you think is the reason, but what other people who know you think about you. First, you have to like yourself. If you don’t like yourself, then don’t expect others to like you. If you don’t like yourself, please seek therapy. In all of us there are plenty of things we have to give to people and we deserve to be liked especially by ourselves. The hard part… Asking people to be brutally honest and to tell you why people are not that into you. Harder part… Whatever they tell you write it down and DON’T ARGUE WITH THEM! Ask at least 4 people who you interact with that are not part of the same circles. Now you have a starting point (or starting points if more then 1 trait is mentioned). Many times its just behavior modification people need. If your conscious about what it is that you do, then you will notice it when you do it. Also, have a person point it out if you are together. I’m a hyper type person and annoy my wife who is low key. I have to tone it down when around her. Put a couple of drinks in me (really, just a couple) and I’m loud and talking almost non-stop. I now unconsciously look to her and see her mood change, and I revert back from life of the party manic, to just engaged talker. Of course, the Guilfoyle incident may have been the first time many people heard about these gatherings. In summers past, many eagerly documented their Hamptons hijinks on social media, but to do so now is a serious faux pas. “It is appalling to allow yourself to be known at one of these things,” the Hamptonite explained. “If you do talk about it or, God forbid, photos emerge—you are judged hard.” (This phenomenon isn’t just in the Hamptons: In May, multiple reports emerged that discreet invitation-only parties were being thrown at clubs around New York City, without a social-media trace. The East End of Long Island, just as everywhere else in the country, is not immune to the coronavirus.